The FriendDoes He Love Me Quiz: 16 Questions, Scored (2026)
A scored 16-question self-check on whether your partner or crush loves you, with result bands and what to do next.
A does he love me quiz works by scoring his everyday behavior on 16 questions: answer Yes (2 points), Sometimes (1) or No (0), and your total lands between 0 and 32. It is an honest self-check, not a scientific measurement. It shows patterns in how someone treats you, not what he feels inside.
You can use it for a boyfriend, a husband, a date or a crush. Swap "he" for "she" or "they" if that fits your situation. In 2026 most people who search this are not after a verdict. They want help turning a vague worry into something concrete they can talk about.
How does the does-he-love-me quiz work?
Answer each question about the last two or three months, not about one bad week or one wonderful night. Go with your first instinct. When we think too long, most of us talk ourselves into either the worst or the best case.
- Yes: this is mostly true (2 points)
- Sometimes: it happens, but not reliably (1 point)
- No: rarely or never (0 points)
If you are not in a relationship yet, questions 9 and 10 may not fit. Skip them, then divide your total by twice the number of questions you answered to get a percentage.
The quiz: does he really love me?
Attention and time
- Does he reply within a reasonable time, and tell you later if he could not?
- Does he ask how your day went and actually listen to the answer?
- Does he sometimes change his own plans to spend time with you?
- Even on busy days, does he send a small message that shows he is thinking of you?
How he acts in hard moments
- When you are having a bad day, does he stay with you instead of brushing it off?
- After an argument, does he take the first step to make up too?
- When he is wrong, does he apologize?
- When you say "no", does he respect your boundary?
Future and honesty
- When he talks about near-future plans (the weekend, a trip, the next few months), does he include you?
- Does he introduce you to friends or family, or make room for you in his life?
- Even if he struggles to say how he feels, does he find ways to show it?
- Does he give straight answers to your questions instead of dodging?
Small details
- Does he remember small things you mentioned, like your favorite food, a worry or an important day?
- Is he genuinely happy about your wins?
- Is he relaxed and himself around you?
- After talking to him, do you usually feel better rather than worse?
What does my score mean?
Add up your points and find your range. The bands are a starting point for a conversation, not a final ruling.
| Score (out of 32) | Percent | What it may mean | Next step |
|---|---|---|---|
| 0-10 | 0-33% | His behavior points to distance or low investment | Have a clear conversation about what you need; if the answer stays vague, set your own boundary |
| 11-19 | 34-60% | A mixed picture: warm on some days, cold on others | Ask for specifics and watch the trend for a few weeks |
| 20-27 | 61-85% | Strong signs: care and attention are mostly there | Talk calmly about the three or four items that came up short |
| 28-32 | 86-100% | Very strong signs: his actions show you matter | Say your own appreciation out loud too |
My score is low. What should I do?
A low score does not prove he does not love you. Stress, work pressure, family problems, or simply not knowing how to show affection can lower the same behaviors. What the score does tell you is that there is something worth discussing.
- Describe, do not accuse. "We have been talking less lately and I miss it" starts far fewer defensive reactions than "You do not love me anymore".
- Pick your moment. Not mid-argument and not at midnight. Choose a time when you are both calm.
- Make one concrete request. For example: ten minutes of phone-free talking each evening.
- Watch what happens next. What he does over the following weeks matters as much as what he says.
One firm warning: if any behavior makes you afraid, controls you or makes you feel small, that is not a quiz result, it is a serious problem. Talk to someone you trust and contact a local support line or emergency service.
He keeps looking at me. Does that mean he loves me?
The searches "does he like me quiz" and "he looks at me, does he love me" usually come from a crush, not a relationship. A look alone is weak evidence. Eye contact can mean interest, curiosity or plain habit. Repeated behavior is the real signal: does he seek you out, stretch the conversation, light up when you mention something?
At this stage questions 1, 2, 3, 11 and 13 are the most useful. For a longer checklist read signs someone secretly likes you, or for a quick first read try how to tell if someone likes you in 30 seconds.
Is the quiz different for a boyfriend, a husband or a crush?
The questions are the same, but the reading changes. Someone in a new relationship often struggles with uncertainty. Someone married for years often feels that love has become invisible inside routine.
| Situation | What to watch |
|---|---|
| New relationship | Consistency: do his words and actions match, or does his interest swing up and down? |
| Long relationship or marriage | Care inside routine: small gestures, listening, shared time, appreciation |
| A crush | Rhythm and clarity: is the interest mutual, does he make plans? |
In long relationships a low score often means attention has gone on autopilot, not that love has ended. That is good news, because autopilot can be changed. To compare your answers with what real affection can look like, read what someone who truly loves you does.
Which questions weigh the most?
Not all 16 questions carry the same weight in real life. Questions 5 to 8 deserve extra attention, because they describe how he behaves when things are hard. Anyone can be warm when everything is easy. Respect for your boundary, willingness to apologize and showing up on a bad day say much more about care than a sweet text.
Questions 15 and 16 are about how you feel, and they are easy to overlook. If you score high on everything else but usually feel anxious, small or drained after being with him, trust that signal and talk about it. If you score modestly but feel calm and valued, that also tells you something real.
Look at the pattern, not only the total. Four "No" answers all in the hard-moments group are a different story from four "No" answers spread across the whole quiz. The first points to one specific gap you can name. The second suggests a general distance.
What can this quiz not measure?
| What the quiz does | What it cannot do |
|---|---|
| Makes behavior patterns visible | Read what he feels inside |
| Shows topics worth discussing | Predict where the relationship is heading |
| Pushes you to check your own observations | Replace advice from a counselor or therapist |
Your own mood also changes the result. When you are anxious you lean toward "No", and when you are deeply in love you lean toward "Yes". If you can, take the quiz again two days later, and ask a trusted friend for an outside view.
How can I prepare for the hard conversation?
Whatever your score, real progress happens in the conversation. Many of us rehearse it in our heads a hundred times and never say it out loud. Writing your sentences down first, then saying them aloud, helps.
Some people practice with an AI character. The Friend (thefriend.io) is an 18+ AI girlfriend platform with realistic female characters, voice calls and photos in chat. It runs in the browser in 11 languages with no app download. You need a free account with email or Google to chat, and free members get a few messages before Premium. Premium is $9.99 per month with unlimited text chat. See the pricing page or the AI girlfriend page for details.
An AI cannot replace a real person and cannot tell you what he feels. It can be a low-pressure place to try out "How do I even say this?" The real conversation still happens between you and him.
So what should I do with my result?
Use the quiz as a starting point, not a verdict. A high score brings calm, a low score asks for courage, and a middle score calls for an open talk. Whichever you get, what you can control is saying what you need clearly and watching what comes back.
FAQ
Is the does he love me quiz accurate?
No, it is not a scientific measurement. It is a self-check that helps you review behavior patterns in an organized way, and your mood can influence the answers. Base real decisions on conversation and consistency over time, not on a score alone.
How many questions does the quiz have and how is it scored?
There are 16 questions. Yes is 2 points, Sometimes is 1 and No is 0, so the total runs from 0 to 32. If you skip questions that do not apply, divide your total by twice the number of questions you answered to get a percentage.
Does it mean he loves me if he looks at me a lot?
Not by itself. Looks can mean interest, curiosity or habit. Pay more attention to repeated behavior such as seeking you out, extending conversations and making plans with you, which are far stronger signals than one glance.
What if my score is low?
Stay calm and describe what you notice instead of accusing him, for example "You have been less present lately and it hurts." Make one concrete request and watch the next few weeks. If nothing changes, deciding on your own boundary is your right.
Why might my husband score low even if he loves me?
In long relationships attention often drifts into routine, so the visible gestures shrink while the love stays. A low score then points to autopilot rather than an ending. Shared time and an honest talk usually improve the picture.
If he never says he loves me, does he not?
Not necessarily. Some people show feelings through actions rather than words. But if care, honesty, consistency and time are also missing, that deserves your attention even if the words are there.
Can I take this quiz about a crush?
Yes. If you are not together, skip questions 9 and 10 and convert your score to a percentage. Results at the crush stage are less certain, so a real conversation or date is still the best way to get clarity.
How can I prepare to talk about it?
Write your main point in a few sentences and say it out loud. Start with how you feel and one concrete request, not with blame. Some people rehearse with an AI chat character, but the real conversation should be with the person involved.